"Game Over"

"My 10-year-old son has become a video game addict. He loves to play PS3 and Wii at home, and when we go out he’s got his Nintendo DS glued to his face. How can I help him kick the habit?"

If you’re married, the first step is to talk with your partner about how much video game time is acceptable per day in your household. Are there differences for school days and weekends? (Hint: There should be!) Does your son need to complete his homework before he is allowed to turn on the PlayStation or the Wii? (Another hint: Probably a good idea!) Before you talk with your son and set some limits for video gaming, be sure you and your partner are on the same page so you can present your concerns and the new rules as a “united front.” For separated couples, it’s good practice to let your ex- know about the limits you’re setting regarding video games, but keep in mind your child’s other parent is free to decide what, if any, rules he or she chooses to implement.

Expect some push-back from your son when you put the rules in place. He’s been allowed to spend pretty much unlimited time on video games and now he’s got to play by your rules. Suffice it to say, he’s not going to be too pleased and he’ll probably try every trick in the book to get you to renege. Stay the course and be consistent about the rules; remember you’re the boss and your son’s well-being is job one. Sure, video games are fun and sometimes they’re even beneficial, but “everything in moderation” is important to remember here. Make sure your son has ample opportunity to play outdoors and to use imagination—in other words, don’t let his love of video games rob him of his childhood.

Disclaimer: Although the advice contained in this Web site frequently makes mention of diagnostic criteria and treatment options, it is not intended to replace the opinion of a qualified mental health professional who could directly and more specifically address the issues and concerns at hand; nor is the advice contained herein offered as substitution for psychotherapy or other professional mental health services. Individuals with mental health concerns are advised to seek treatment in person through a licensed professional. The author of the content on this Web site, Bryan J. Hall, LMHC, makes no guarantees regarding the advice offered and reminds readers to use personal discretion when deciding what, if any, advice or suggestions to accept and implement.